Every ache is telling us something important, but we miss it.
It’s not that we don’t try. Goodness knows, we attempt a million varieties of pleasure to address the ache. But few ever hear what the ache is really after.
Jesus hears the ache clearly.
Why? Because he put it there.
Let me say that again: Jesus put the ache in us.
And he wants to satisfy it. As we suspend our demand for the million varieties of pleasure, he heals our ears to hear the ache clearly as he does. It’s calling for connection—a deep, naked, lasting connection.
Deep – Distance doesn’t cut it for us. We’re after a connection that involves being intertwined with another, becoming one with another.
Naked – We may be drawn to an image, but the ache wants the real. We want to see and be seen. No clothes, no lies, no secrets, and no shame.
Lasting – No great love story ends with “happily for a while after.” The ache throbs for a love that goes on and on.
But where on earth does this happen?
The best marriage—including the sexual intimacy between husband and wife—offers the closest version and helps satisfy the ache.
But marriage is not the answer to the ache; it is only a whisper of the answer.
Jesus put the ache in us, he does not snuff it out, and he is tenderly attentive to it.
Because ultimately it is an ache for him.
Scripture begins with a wedding between man and woman. It ends with the wedding of Christ and His Bride. This union, though not sexual, is deep, naked, and lasting.
Wherever you are in life, your deepest ache is calling for union with him. Now and in the age to come. The question that remains is, will you listen?
I’d love your thoughts. Leave a comment below.
P.S. Christians can make the mistake of shaking our heads at those “million kinds of pleasure” and criticizing ourselves or others for wanting them. But then, that’s not listening to the ache either.