If you wrestle with unwanted sexual behaviors and want to uncover why, here is one place you may not have thought to look: Your distractions. Do you keep yourself busy at work or home? Do you always have music playing? Do you turn to your screen whenever you have to wait? Or do you serve as a helper for everyone else in your life? While none of these are bad in and of themselves, they can...
Is It Okay to Fantasize About Your Spouse?
In today’s podcast I’m going to be answering a question that was emailed to us. Is it okay for a man to masturbate while fantasizing about his wife?We encourage you to send us your questions as I really love to answer some of things that you all are experiencing and facing.So the question I got this week was from a guy who’s involved in an accountability group. The guys in the group are...
Can I Really Change!?!
How free can you be? How free? Can you be? In some version or another, this is a question that we get a lot, especially for people who are just starting their journey towards sexual integrity. They’ve wrestled with their specific attractions and temptations and are wondering, is this going to be a part of my life forever? Can I actually be free? Can real change happen for me? Can I Really...
The Courage to Confess
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” (James 5:16). When you read the command to confess your sins to others, you might internally hear questions like these: Why in the world would I tell somebody what I did? What if they change their opinion of me? What if they reject me? What if other people find out? These are all valid questions. But...
Breaking the Link Between Self-Preservation and Sexual Sin
(This is an updated article, originally written by Alan Medinger in 2005) “They can’t hurt me. Nobody can hurt me.” Have you ever said that? Something we can say so casually is tied to some of the deepest places in our past. These words expressed a choice I had made, one that would shield me from significant harm for years to come. However, the choice has several other effects that I never would...
Using Your Imagination for Fantasy or Faith
In Genesis when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and there was adelight to the eyes, and the tree was to be desired to make one wise she took of its fruit and ate. What did she see? The enemy when he tempts us wants us to see something. But the truth is, what he wants us to see is not reality. She saw something that wasn’t actually there. And the enemy does the same thing to us. He...