Listen on: When you find yourself lacking desire for your spouse, I would invite you to look somewhere else. I want to invite you to look at how you feel about yourself. How good I feel about yourself is usually more of the underlying reason why you lack desire for your spouse, then your spouse’s. It really has to do with you. So let me unpack that a little bit. When you look in the...
Listen on: In this podcast, we are talking about your imagination. Your Imagination Is Better Than Porn. We who are seeking sexual integrity know the problem of how our mind can get us into trouble with sexual thoughts, sexual fantasies, and sexual imaginings that lead us down a path. It can start with just a small thought that seems to kind of drift into our brain. Then something inside grabs a...
So many people have ceilings on how far they can go in life. Some ceilings come from what people say is or isn’t possible as it pertains to change and transformation. In our culture many believe there is a ceiling with those who wrestle with same sex attraction or men in general, that they will always struggle with lust and have no possibility of change. On the other side there are those that...
H.A.L.T is a powerful tool used in recovery. Each letter represents a different risk state that can lead you to your drug of choice (H Hungry, A Angry, L Lonely, T Tired). In this episode of Sacred by Design, we’re exploring the risk state of Loneliness. Out of the 4, loneliness feels the most risky and vulnerable to talk about. So, we’re talking about it. Highlights: In your journey towards...
All of us are broken sexually. This may be obvious for some readers, but this is true of everyone. Sadly, sin impacts us all, including our sexuality and the other deep aspects of our lives. We need to embrace this reality rather than fall into the trap of comparing our insides with others’ outsides. Without acknowledgement of our common heritage of sexual brokenness, shame kicks up a gear. ...
Have you ever thought you won’t need or want pornography anymore once you get married? Many men and women have. The idea seems logical: If I go to pornography because I want sex, then once I’m married and having regular sex with my spouse, it will be easier to leave pornography behind. But most of the time, tying the knot doesn’t fix the problem at all. Sometimes, it even makes it worse...