One of the most insidious ideas floating in the airwaves of this generation goes something like this: Men lust. It’s just what men do. What Does It Mean to Be a Man? The same idea comes out in a hundred ways. Some examples: Men are visual, so put an attractive person in front of them and they’re going to lust.Men need sex.Every guy looks at porn from time to time.There’s nothing wrong with...
One Big Reason You Keep Returning to Sin
Matt is a young man who is trying to leave behind a long habit of viewing pornography, of returning to sin, and occasionally having sex with strangers. He’s a recent college graduate working a job he doesn’t love while he pursues his true passion: Music. Matt would love to be a Christian musician or a worship leader. Last month was one of the best and worst Matt’s had in a long time. At the...
If Porn Were a Sex-Ed Teacher
Has pornography shaped your view of sex? We all look online when we have questions. Whether asking Alexa what tomorrow’s weather forecast is, Waze how to get into the city without paying tolls, or Siri how to spell kalbasa kilbasa keilbasa kielbasa, our devices offer us easy access to a wealth of information. Growing up, kids reach a point when they’re curious about sex. This is normal and good...
The Risk You Need to Take
If you’re struggling compulsively with unwanted sexual behavior, what you most need may surprise you. I met with Mike last year and listened as he talked about his love of God and his intense desire to bring the truth of Jesus to a lost world. But Mike was falling repeatedly into patterns of sexual sin. The disparity between his convictions and his actions left Mike angry at himself. Listening to...
3 Ways to Quit Porn While Quarantined
At some point early in life, pornography was not a thought in your mind. You’d never seen it and it didn’t occupy any of your time. Things have changed. Now you can’t stop thinking about it even when you wish you could. If this describes you, then why not make this season of social distancing and quarantine a time to work on leaving pornography behind, a time to become a man or woman who walks in...
Stopping the Shame Cycle
Shame is a powerful influencer. And if we let it get loud enough, it convinces us that we are walking report cards. Shame gives us a capital F saying our behavior is who we are. Let’s turn down the volume on shame. You may be struggling with your behavior but you are not your sin. Your identity is not wrapped in your performance alone. If that statement can’t find it’s way into your heart; listen...
