Looking up pornography, arranging an affair or hookup; these things cut you off from you. Unwanted sexual behaviors are an escape mechanism and their gift is dissociation. When you don’t know how to deal with the hardships in your life, dissociating through distraction can feel like an easy way out. But the further deep you are in your sexual sin, the farther you are walking away from you...
Parenting Pioneers
Parents, we are living in a digitally connected, sexually saturated world. Being a mom or dad in this day and age can feel more like Pioneer Parenting. We are the first generation to raise kids in a world that is globally connected, 24/7. And the internet can be tough competition, especially when it comes to talking to our kids about sex. When you’re too tired or too...
To See and Be Seen
The power to see and be seen is more than just opening our eyes. We easily diminish that power with our human tendencies towards lust or comparison or judgment. What is it like to see how Jesus sees? In this episode, we’ll examine our human vision versus Jesus’ all-powerful, all-knowing, loving vision. Jesus knows you through and through and loves you. Before hitting play, pray the words of a...
The Scary Business of Being Seen
Have you ever considered how much power people’s eyes have? Seeing is powerful. You’ve probably felt this intuitively at some point in your life when… You wanted someone to look your way, and they did. Or they didn’t. You said or did something embarrassing and wished you were invisible. Everyone else on Zoom had their camera off, so you turned yours off, too. You felt truly seen by a friend...
Enemy on the Prowl
Reality check friends, you have an enemy. An Enemy on the Prowl. The message in this episode isn’t meant to scare you. Our purpose is to issue a loud wake-up call for your heart, mind, soul, and body. More often than not, we don’t believe we have to deal with an actual enemy. But he is alive and active, taking shape in issues from our past and battles in our present. There’s only...
Can Pain Help You Quit Porn?
Early in my recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors in the late ’90s, I remember one piece of advice I received was to wear a rubber band around my wrist and snap it every time I was tempted to lust. It’s actually a practical concept based in Pavlovian research. Through repeatedly ringing a bell just before feeding his dogs, Pavlov’s dogs came to associate the sound of the bell with food, so...