The work of Engaging your Story is a doorway to experiencing God’s forgiveness. Understanding your story gives you new ways for your brain and body and heart to work in concert with God’s will again. Engaging your story involves all of you. It means pulling a memory from your brain, unlocking it from your heart, feeling it in your body and then sharing it with another person. You are created to...
When You Lack Desire for Your Spouse
Listen on: When you find yourself lacking desire for your spouse, I would invite you to look somewhere else. I want to invite you to look at how you feel about yourself. How good I feel about yourself is usually more of the underlying reason why you lack desire for your spouse, then your spouse’s. It really has to do with you. So let me unpack that a little bit. When you look in the...
Discover What’s Broken
All of us are broken sexually. This may be obvious for some readers, but this is true of everyone. Sadly, sin impacts us all, including our sexuality and the other deep aspects of our lives. We need to embrace this reality rather than fall into the trap of comparing our insides with others’ outsides. Without acknowledgement of our common heritage of sexual brokenness, shame kicks up a gear. ...
What’s Sexual Integrity?
When it comes to sex, most Christians have been taught the right actions but few have been taught to align their thoughts and desires with those actions. Even more, the primary lesson of God’s beautiful design for sexuality is almost never included. This teaching begins during childhood. What was the sex talk like for you? What’s Sexual Integrity? Were you inspired by the beauty of...
Women Watch Porn Too
Women watch porn too, and we want you to know you aren’t the only one. Let’s begin with this truth: You, a woman, are not alone in your pull to pornography. Statistics back this by revealing that 57% of girls ages 14-18 have viewed pornography. That means more than half the girls in high-school are watching porn. 60.2% of women view pornography. So you are not alone. The truth is simple;...
What Do I Do With This Body?
When we’re struggling with unwanted sexual attractions or behaviors, it can feel like we’re struggling against our bodies. But the early Christian church was very careful to recognize that our bodies are not the enemy, and we need to be just as careful. The incarnation (that God became flesh, that God assumed a human nature and became a man in the form of Jesus Christ.) turned the ancient...
