Every week, men and women contact Regen because their desires keep getting them into trouble. Or so they think.
But desire isn’t their problem. Fullishness is.
Here’s what I mean: The greatest threat to a person deprived of nutrients is not hunger. It’s believing he’s had enough to eat.
But as long as a man is hungry, he’ll seek out the nourishment he needs.
We’re saturated with what’s artificial, with quick-fixes, with subpar. We don’t recognize the depth of our hunger.
- Do you ever wonder why you keep going back to porn?
- Or why you lose your temper so often?
- Have you considered why you work so much?
- Or why it’s so difficult to put down your phone for extended periods of time?
- Why do you go through so many relationships?
- What’s going on that you can’t keep the weight off?
- Why do you have such a hard time saying no when people want your help?
Within Christendom, many of us act like following Jesus means an end to our hunger, along with sadness, loneliness, anger, pain, grief, and sorrow, too.
(While this will be true eventually, it’s not true yet. Case in point: Jesus.)
Most of the time, I don’t think we do this on purpose. But we’ve learned subtle ways of avoiding the immensity of our own longing and helping each other to do the same.
This is a disservice to everyone. The smaller we believe our hunger, the more we try to fill it with small, temporal things. This is fullishness. This is why you keep returning to porn, why you lose your temper so often, why you work so much…
Longing is placed in us by God. It is there to urge us to seek, to ask, to knock, to set our hearts toward heaven.
If we are created for union with God Himself, our desire does not need to be removed, it needs to be enlarged and ignited.
Don’t be fullish. Be hungry, for that is what you are.
I’d love your input: In what ways can we Christians make more room in our lives for longing and help one another to do so?