Get Behind Me


As Christians, we are called to relieve suffering. But we’re not called to relieve all suffering.

This is most certainly true when it comes to suffering and sanctification, including when it comes to becoming more relationally, emotionally, and sexually whole.

We live in an age that says the sign of a good relationship, romance, or sex is the pleasure it brings. If he/she makes you happy, be with that person. If the sex is good, enjoy it. If that’s your thing, who am I to judge?

Within this ideology, failure to relieve suffering is to be unloving.

But for Christ-followers, growing in godliness relationally, emotionally, and sexually will lead us through seasons of suffering. As we go, the spirit of the age will entice:

Everybody lusts. God doesn’t really expect you not to.
Why should you be single and lonely your entire life when everyone else is happy?* Marry an unbeliever, enter into a same-sex union, or remarry after divorce.
If you get out of this marriage, you’re life will be so much happier. Get out while you’re still young enough to find someone new.
Have sex. No one waits for marriage anymore.
Your wife (or husband) doesn’t need to know what you’ve been doing. It will only hurt them to find out.
When God commanded people to forgive, He certainly couldn’t have meant forgiving someone who has wounded you sexually. That’s just asking too much!
People will think you’re hateful if you maintain that marriage and sex are created by God only to be between a man and woman for life.
Just give in one more time to porn so you can sleep tonight. Tomorrow will be easier.

And the last enticement is, of course: To be a friend like Jesus is a friend means relieving others’ suffering.

Peter was such a friend to Jesus.

When Jesus told his disciples He was on His way to Jerusalem where He would “suffer many things” and “be killed” (Matthew 16:21), Peter pulled Jesus aside to assure Him he wouldn’t let it happen. Peter thought he was delivering good news to Jesus. He may even have expected Jesus to thank him for being such a good friend.

Instead, Jesus became stern with Peter: “Get behind Me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to Me; you do not have in mind the concerns of God, but merely human concerns” (Matthew 16:23).

Twice more Peter would try to reduce or prevent Jesus’s suffering (see Matthew 26:33 and 26:51), but Jesus would not accept Peter’s “help.”

Don’t misunderstand. Jesus was not a glutton for punishment. He did not want to suffer and die. But He pressed through for the sake of resurrection, where sin, suffering and death would find their end.

Likewise for us and for those we seek to love.

“If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me” (Matthew 16:24).

We’re called to relieve suffering, but not all suffering. Instead, let’s follow Jesus together, taking up our crosses and also putting our shoulder under each other’s cross to help bear the burden.

To try to relieve all suffering is to try to remove the cross from Christianity. To remove the cross is to remove resurrection. Get behind us, Satan!

I’d love to hear from you. How can we help bear each others’ crosses? How has taking up your cross and following Jesus brought new life to you or those you love?

For you,

“I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” – Romans 8:18

*The common assumption today that singleness and celibacy inevitably lead to an unfulfilled and unhappy life can and should be challenged by the Church.

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  • “To try to relieve all suffering is to try to remove the cross from Christianity. To remove the cross is to remove resurrection. Get behind us, Satan!”

    Wow. This devotional/blog/post touched a chord in me this morning.

    This past Sunday, our 20-year old son told us (again with certainty) that he is gay. I wrote ‘again’ because when he was in high school, we came across some things and he was becoming interested. We sought counselors, he has been to one and throughout the years he has been counseled and the gospel has been poured into him by our best friend and fellow elder in our ministry (realizing that we could not handle this alone and our son trusts and respects Rick dearly). All this to say, it was to no avail. I feel weird even typing that because I know that – ‘ALL things work together for the good of those that love Him and are called according to His purpose’ . ALL things? I have to believe even this though I can’t see how.

    My husband and I are elders in our church and I am the pianist. We have done what we only knew to do, serve the Lord and tried to live our lives before our children which demonstrates Christ, leading them to Him, as well, though flawed as we are. I say that to say, no, I do not expect us (just because we are leaders) to be immune from pain and suffering. I have found, we have found, Christ has been so close to us in our suffering in times past and it compels us to serve Him and draw to Him all the more. Now, especially.

    Years ago, as I was riddled with stress and worry over our son, the Lord quietly spoke to me, “do you love him (our son)?” “Of course”, I replied. “Then let him go. If you interfere and try to take this away, you are not allowing me to work in his life.” In that, I felt like God was essentially saying, “trust me, Monique. Yes, even with your son.” Even now, with him professing and confessing to be gay, I hear “trust me. Allow me (God) to work this out. I am not surprised by this. I am still God.”
    We told our son that we loved him. We asked if he believes that Jesus ishis Savior. That is our most important concern right now. Though we have taken him to church all these years and he is on the worship team, he admits that while he does believe Jesus is his savior, he has questions regarding all the ‘Christianity-stuff’.

    Our hearts hurt….
    ……yet they are resolved; we are pained but confident even more of who God is in our lives. He will receive the honor and the glory. We have to keep pointing our son to the cross.

    So, going back to what you wrote,
    “….To try to relieve all suffering is to try to remove the cross from Christianity. To remove the cross is to remove resurrection. Get behind us, Satan”,

    I would not have chosen this course for our son. It is a long road we have to endure. Was I Peter? Was I trying to prevent this suffering for my son? Absolutely!

    Even as servants of the Lord, I hurt and feel helpless but it is momentary. I will lift my head and dig deeper in prayer and call out to God and love my son and trust that all things (this thing) will work out for our good, somehow.

    Would you pray for us when you think of us?

    God Bless You. Thank You.

    • We parents feel much pain for our children. Our daughter who identifies as non-binary is about to have surgery to remove her breasts. Knowing God can redeem all this enables me to face tomorrow. Would you also pray for us?

  • Great article Josh.Yes, I can certainly relate as a follower of Christ.Being married or single is a gift from God.Single myself is a gift and denying myself of this world’s pleasures is certainly not easy.But as I was reading John 11, that Jesus is the Resurrection and the life.What great hope in such a sex saturated culture that as a single man I can by God’s wonderful grace be celibate now 26 years.This to me is God’s Amazing grace.God bless brother and thanks for the article.

By Josh Glaser

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