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How to Stop Lusting in One Step

We live in a world with a lust problem. Celebrities, politicians, pastors, men, women, lusting is everywhere. For many, lust has led to behaviors that are ruining their careers, marriages, or ministries. For others, it’s just a matter of time, whether they know it or not.

Lust is a huge problem. So how do you stop?

You love.

Simple. But not easy. Love requires transformation, it will cost you, it will mean laying down your life. The more you love, the less you’ll lust. This is because it is impossible to lust and to love at the same time. When you love another human being, you simply cannot lust after him or her.

Take a look at a few comparisons to illustrate this.

How to Stop Lusting

When you love, you . . . When you lust, you . . .
See a whole personSee only a body or body part(s)
Give for the other’s goodTake for your own pleasure
Are willing to suffer for another. Are after pleasure, even at someone else’s expense
Reserve physical desire for oneDesire recklessly, anyone will do

Make sure you check out Becoming a Woman of Sexual Integrity and Becoming a Man of Sexual Integrity. These quick video series are an introduction to becoming more whole in the area of Sexual Integrity!

Love trumps the power of lust. So if you’ve been spending all your energy trying not to lust, seek more how to love.

One more thing: If you want to love, ask Jesus—who is Love—to help you. He’s been waiting for you to ask.

Let me hear from you! What can you do to become better at loving others? What helps you see a whole person? And for those of you who are particularly brave, what ideas do you have about how to love in the moment when you’re tempted to lust? Leave a comment below.

With Love,
Josh

Other resources on Lust:

Why Lust in Marriage Isn’t Healthy

Is Lust Okay in Marriage? – Podcast

Lust and the Search for Worth

5 Things I do When I am Tempted to Lust