You might be tempted to believe your problem is a lack of discipline. And you wouldn’t be alone. Lack of discipline is the #1 reason I hear from those who believe they should have daily times alone with God but don’t.
But instead of trying to drum up more discipline, there’s a better place to start.
Begin by asking yourself what you expect.
I mean it. What do you expect will happen when you next try to spend time with him alone? This is an important question.
But what follows is even more important: Let yourself answer. Don’t edit, don’t self-correct, and don’t shut down. Let whatever comes up for you come up.
Because here’s the reality: Chances are, if you’re not regularly spending alone time with the Lord, there’s a part of you that doesn’t want to.
And there’s a reason for that that matters.
Maybe it has something to do with how you expect him to respond to you—the real you. Maybe you’re carrying a sin or a relationship you don’t think he likes and you’re not ready to let it go. Maybe you’re disappointed in him; perhaps he’s let you down in some way that really hurts.
Maybe it’s all of these. Whatever it is, begin there with him.
You don’t need to start spending time with him where you think you should be. You can start where you are.
Could it be he’s been waiting to hear from the real you?
Or that he knows all about what you don’t want to let go and he’s waiting with grace to help you?
And could it be he’s been waiting a long time for you to speak with him about your disappointment?
You may be closer to him than you think.
Question: What helps you spend time alone with the Lord? If you use a specific routine, devotional, or anything else that you’ve found beneficial in growing closer to him, let us know by leaving a comment here.