Two of our most basic, human needs are this: to be known and to be loved.
But something’s got many of us convinced you can’t have both.
So we expend lots of energy hiding those parts of ourselves that are unlovely. And we work really hard to succeed (at business, parenting, athleticism, ministry, Bible study, you name it) because we think it will make us lovely and so, worthy of love.
The sad irony is you can’t truly be loved unless you’re known. Being known precedes being loved. Otherwise, who is actually being loved? At best, it’s an image or a fraction of you.
Perhaps even sadder is that for the unlovely parts of a person to heal, grow, or change, those parts need to be exposed to love. You can’t take a sickly rose, throw it in a closet and expect it to shape up. You have to bring it to a gardener who knows and loves roses.
What part of you have you kept hidden? Is it something from your past? Something you can’t stop doing? Something done to you? Maybe a dream or secret hope you’ve had?
The cross reveals that Christ both knows and loves you. Ask Him who in your life is safe to open up to. Then risk being known and watch what happens.
Question: Do you buy the idea that you can’t be truly loved unless you’re fully known? Why or why not? What about the idea that change only comes after love, not the other way around?
I’d value your thoughts! Leave a comment below.
Choosing to be known,
P.S. Here’s one final sad irony: Until you’re willing to let others know you—even your sin, ugliness, and weaknesses—they’ll keep thinking they’re the only ones with unlovely parts they need to hide.