Are you discouraged that God hasn’t changed your sinful desires yet? You want to do what’s right and you’re willing for God to change you, so why hasn’t He?
It can be painfully frustrating to keep repeating sins you don’t want to anymore. It can be painfully difficult to keep wanting sins you don’t want to want anymore. Why doesn’t God just snap His fingers and change your behaviors? Why doesn’t God just snap His fingers and change your wants? Wouldn’t it be better for all of us and wouldn’t it bring Him so much more glory if He did?
Maybe you’ve cried out, “God, if you love me, why won’t you just change me?”
I can relate, but I’m coming to believe that it is precisely because of love that God does not often snap His fingers and change us. It is precisely because you are so important to Him that He does not remove all our temptations.
Our choice must remain fully in tact in order for us to be able to love. Love is not truly love if it just happens automatically without choice. For God to create creatures who automatically adored Him and could not do otherwise would be for Him to create creatures incapable of giving themselves freely, and so incapable of truly loving.
C.S. Lewis put it this way:
“But the obedience which [God] demands of men is quite a different thing. One must face the fact that all the talk about His love for men, and His service being perfect freedom, is…truth. He really does want to fill the universe with…creatures whose life, on its miniature scale, will be qualitatively like His own, not because He has absorbed them but because their wills freely conform to His.”
In other words, if God were to simply make your will His will, if He were to assimilate your freedom into Himself, you would no longer be free to choose Him or not. God desires you would love Him and choose Him, and this means leaving your will in tact, and thus able to choose other lovers. We recognize the importance of this in human relationships, don’t we? For God to suddenly remove from us every competing desire would not be too dissimilar to a man drugging another person so the second person will “give” themselves to him. Without actual freedom to say no, yes is not yes.
Where the world says that love makes the choosing easy, God’s Word teaches that love is both revealed and forged when the choosing is most difficult.
“If God is not changing my desires, then I am not to blame if I go on sinning,” someone might say. No, no. You are free to go on sinning, but this does not make you blameless if you go on sinning. Just as importantly, where God leaves you free to say no to him, other gods do not. Say yes to them enough and they will enslave your will.
Even still, God is not leaving you alone to deal with temptation. He is present and daily sharing the strength of His yes with you. As you freely say yes to Him and no to sin, the purity of your love grows stronger day by day.
Our team is here to cheer you on and help along the way. Let us know if we can.