Are your struggles so much different from everyone else? Over past two decades of ministry, I’ve walked with many men and women who have felt that because of their specific sexual struggles, they are worse off than others. Their concerns usually go something like this: Christians accept people who deal with X, Y, or Z, but if the moment they find out you struggle with what I struggle with...
The Will to Believe, the Will to Feel
Five years ago I wrote an article for Regeneration entitled “Our Secret Weapon: The Will” (May 2004). In the years following, I have become even more convinced that our will is magnificent but grossly undervalued gift in our battle to become more and more Christ-like. In the article I stressed how in a feeling, materialistic society we have been taught to ignore the will. We’re told that feelings...
Peter’s Testimony
What follows is a part of my life’s story. Its importance lies in it’s primal aspect and God’s will to redeem it. Although there are other parts of my 43 year (and counting) story, none has yet been so instrumental in showing the significance of the whole or in imparting integrity to the man that I am becoming. I came into the world to two delighted parents. My mother and father had beautiful...
The Journey through Lesbianism
Where are we headed on the journey through lesbianism? You might be surprised (or relieved) that it is not automatically to marriage, a family, and a house in the suburbs with a white picket fence! Rather, we are headed in the same direction as every other Christian – towards Jesus Christ! Our journey is to become more like Him in our thoughts, words, actions, and relationships. This process is...
The Blessings of Temptation
Temptation, testing, trials—three T’s—are all quite closely related. Each involves going through a difficult experience that may have a good or a bad outcome. We all face them—perhaps Christians more than others—and it is probably safe to say we wish they weren’t a part of our lives. In fact, we ask God to “lead us not into temptation” whenever we say the Lord’s Prayer. In a recent article I...
When Is It Sin?
Tom comes from a homosexual past. It has been years since he has engaged in any homosexual activity or has even thought he would want to. He is married and has a sexual relationship with his wife that brings them both great joy. And Tom is quite content with his manhood. He no longer feels like the little boy in the presence of “real men.” He is comfortable in just being one of the guys. But Tom...