In today’s podcast, I have three simple mental shifts to help you grow. These three simple changes you can make will help you in your journey toward sexual integrity. It is my aim that these small mental adjustments will help you see how you should approach your journey for sexual integrity in a fresh light. Mental Shifts: From “this as an opportunity to sin” to “this as...
What Do I Do With This Body?
When we’re struggling with unwanted sexual attractions or behaviors, it can feel like we’re struggling against our bodies. But the early Christian church was very careful to recognize that our bodies are not the enemy, and we need to be just as careful. The incarnation (that God became flesh, that God assumed a human nature and became a man in the form of Jesus Christ.) turned the ancient...
Can I Really Change!?!
How free can you be? How free? Can you be? In some version or another, this is a question that we get a lot, especially for people who are just starting their journey towards sexual integrity. They’ve wrestled with their specific attractions and temptations and are wondering, is this going to be a part of my life forever? Can I actually be free? Can real change happen for me? Can I Really...
Using Your Imagination for Fantasy or Faith
In Genesis when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and there was adelight to the eyes, and the tree was to be desired to make one wise she took of its fruit and ate. What did she see? The enemy when he tempts us wants us to see something. But the truth is, what he wants us to see is not reality. She saw something that wasn’t actually there. And the enemy does the same thing to us. He...
Accountability and Integrity
At the core of every sexual integrity problem is relational brokenness. Because God created sex to be relational, it is relational down to its core. And so if you are dealing with a sexual issue, you are dealing with a relational issue. What is a partner or group for accountability? It’s a certain kind of connection. As a result, if you have a relational brokenness in your life, you may...
The Why Behind the What
If you are wrestling with unwanted sexual behaviors or recurring sexual behaviors, and want to get free, you have to know the why behind the what? What is the why, behind your specific what? So for example, if you struggle with pornography, and you’re typically looking for a certain kind or genre, types of people, gender, or specific sexual acts in the pornography? What’s the why...