Sex at its core is about relationship. The world has tried to convince us that sex is primarily about pleasure or recreation, just a physical act, something to be enjoyed with whomever or by oneself. But the fundamental fact remains—sex is deeply and profoundly relational. It’s designed by God that way and can never be something different. In Genesis 2 after God brought the first woman...
Twisted Power
I just got off the phone with a dad whose son has been viewing porn and sexting strangers. The boy is just 15 but already he’s exhibiting signs of sexual addiction. Why did God create sex to be so powerful? God did create sex powerful, but this boy, like so many, is not dealing so much with the power of sex, he’s dealing with the power of sin. And there’s a big difference between the two. The...
Power for Good
Why is sex so powerful? If you’re like me, the power of sex has been an unwelcome reality in your life or in the lives of loved ones. So I want to dive back into the question I opened up last week – this question about why God created sex to be so powerful. To understand the why we have to first clarify the what or, better said, the who. See, sex is not an entity in and of itself. Sex is...
Different
As a kid, I remember watching an animated film depicting an island populated with men who hunted and built things and women who cooked and sewed. One day, an earthquake split the island in two, stranding the men on one half by themselves and the women on the other. At first, each group thought all was lost, until a few brave women tried their hand at hunting and building and a few brave men tried...
Giving Up Fast Food
When I was in college, I had two friends who met weekly to hold each other accountable. They met in the student center. Not exactly the best place to have privacy. But they were resourceful, so they came up with code words to use when talking about those challenges that were more sensitive or embarrassing. One code I remember was that instead of saying masturbation they’d substitute McDonald’s. I...
Look Closely
The culture sounds confident when it comes to sex. But if you look closely, it’s actually very confused. One of its primary messages is that sex is no big deal. But… Sex is no big deal, but it’s everywhere. Whether you’re watching the Super Bowl, standing in line at the store, or reading news online, it’s nearly impossible not to run into sexual content. Sex is no big deal, but pornography is one...