When it comes to change, pain isn't usually the problem. How we interpret pain is.
God Doesn’t Want to Use You
If this sounds disappointing or discouraging to you, pause for a moment and consider this question: Do you think God wants you to use him? The desire to be used by God sounds good on the surface. Noble even. But it’s not what He’s after. This is good news because at our core, we don’t want to be used. We want to be loved. We want our work to matter to someone because we matter to them. We want...
Tired of Waiting for God?
Ever look around church and feel like you must be the only one who’s not getting as much from God as you want? The truth is we all long for more of God than we experience. We want God to show up, to love us in the places that yearn for Him most, to make a difference we can feel and see. Waiting for God can be like waiting for sex. (Bear with me.) Consider a bride-to-be who can’t wait to come...
Ms. Grumpy and Me
All I did was ask for half caff. Our waitress glanced toward the kitchen miserably, like I’d just added an hour’s worth of work to her day. I looked around at the spattering of others in the restaurant (hardly a rush); then, when she walked away, I leaned across the table and whispered to my friend, “She’s a grump.” Maybe. But this was also an opportunity for me, and I missed it. Two days later I...
With Him For Her
Porn has a secret. It keeps this secret because when people find out, they won't see porn the same again.
Why I Didn’t Want to March, and Why I Did Anyway
Last week, the Supreme Court heard arguments for two monumental cases regarding the future of marriage in our country. The court could rule in several ways, but ultimately, what they decide could clear the way for same-sex marriage to become the law of the land across the U.S. With so much at stake, people from both sides of this debate showed up in D.C. last week. I was invited by two dear...