If you’ve sought major change in any area of your life, you may have become disappointed to discover that God’s priorities for bringing about change are often different than our own. You may come to him seeking freedom from pornography, wanting to be rid of your insecurity, hoping for a noticeable shift in your sexual desires, needing your broken heart healed, or pleading for a restored...
Now What?
Tuesday, Maryland and Maine became the first two states in the U.S. to legalize homosexual marriage by a vote of the people. I’m among the 48% of Marylanders who voted against same-sex marriage, and today I’m grieving. Rightly so. If you feel the same sadness, you might be tempted, as many are right now, to focus on what went wrong, to blame, to complain. There’s a better response. Let the eyes...
What Are You Talking About?
We have a fundamental problem in our public discourse regarding homosexuality. We’re talking about different things.
Against or For?
It seems it’s difficult these days to say anything challenging gay marriage without being looked as a bigot, a religious zealot, or a hater. In response, many have gotten quiet. But I can’t. Not so much because I’m opposed to gay marriage (though I am), but because I love homosexual men and women. For the past 15 years, I’ve had the privilege of meeting and walking alongside hundreds of men and...
A Change in Orientation
Everyone’s “sexual orientation” was damaged in the fall. And so, a change in sexual orientation is something everyone needs. In God’s original design, sexuality included things like: nakedness free of shame and fear, honor and dignity given and received, ability to steward sexual desire rather than be ruled by it, unquenchable fidelity between husband and wife, joy and awe in bearing and...
You Can Change (And You’re a Rubik’s Cube)
Is real change possible? This is a question we get a lot in one form or another. Once a sex addict, always a sex addict, right? He cheated on me, will my husband ever really be trustworthy? Can homosexual men and women really change? I’ve wrestled with __________ for so long, is there any hope for me? Another way of asking these same questions is Can people change fundamentally or is the...