Everyone’s “sexual orientation” was damaged in the fall. And so, a change in sexual orientation is something everyone needs. In God’s original design, sexuality included things like: nakedness free of shame and fear, honor and dignity given and received, ability to steward sexual desire rather than be ruled by it, unquenchable fidelity between husband and wife, joy and awe in bearing and...
Let Christ Smash Your Ceilings
So many people have ceilings on how far they can go in life. Some ceilings come from what people say is or isn’t possible as it pertains to change and transformation. In our culture many believe there is a ceiling with those who wrestle with same sex attraction or men in general, that they will always struggle with lust and have no possibility of change. On the other side there are those that...
Searching for God in the Good of Sex
When we are pursuing sexual integrity, we all experience this mental combat between sexual sin and our desire for sexual integrity. It’s not just an experience we have in our thought life alone. We feel it in our bodies when they become aroused by things we see, the thoughts we have, and by the longings we have. One of the ways we try to combat and move away from our sexual orientations is...
Can I Really Change!?!
How free can you be? How free? Can you be? In some version or another, this is a question that we get a lot, especially for people who are just starting their journey towards sexual integrity. They’ve wrestled with their specific attractions and temptations and are wondering, is this going to be a part of my life forever? Can I actually be free? Can real change happen for me? Can I Really...
Gay or Same-Sex Attracted – The Words Matter
We’re weighing in on a continuing conversation of language because the words matter. Join us as Josh unpacks the terms “Gay Christian” and “Christian with Same Sex Attraction.” Followers of Jesus who hold a traditional view of God’s design for sexuality, can split when it comes to the wording. We’ll explore how language elevates orientation to the same status as belief in Jesus. We are beloved...
Gay Christian or Same-Sex Attracted?
Some Christians with same-sex attractions are comfortable referring to themselves as “gay Christians.” Others are vehemently opposed to it. Here’s why this conversation matters. “I hope you’re not one of those guys who will tell me not to refer to myself as a ‘gay Christian,’” Charlie said when we first sat down in my office. “With all the other concerns facing gay Christians in the church, it’s...