From my perspective, it’s a tough era for singles. Singleness isn't new, but singleness as we know it today is. What can we all do to help?
Moving Beyond “Better Days”
When an unfaithful husband’s* betrayal comes to light, and both he and his wife begin the process of recovery, it’s not uncommon to hear something along these lines: “I’ll do whatever is necessary to get things back to the way they were.” “I’m through with the other relationship. I don’t want to lose my wife and family.” “If my wife will forgive me, I know we can be happy again like we used to be...
Scalpel
Confession: All throughout school, I purposefully avoided any science class that included dissecting a frog. I didn’t want to be the guy passed out on the floor, because the thought of cutting through any body makes me a bit queasy. But this is also one of the reasons I became motivated to overcome lust. Lust dissects a man or woman against their will. It disassembles a person, cutting away any...
Do You Use the Four Letter ‘F’ Word?
Leaving your unwanted sexual behaviors behind is going to mean suffering of one kind or another. Otherwise, you’re using the “F” word. Not that “F” word. I’m talking about a cursing of a different kind, and all dressed up like a gift. It’s the curse of being Fine. Ten years ago, during my yearly physical with a brand new physician, my doctor made the comment...
Shove
If you’re stuck in some area of your life (sexual or otherwise), it might be because of shame. Shame has an unrivalled ability to derail progress and hinder growth, and . . . it’s sneaky. It can come so subtly that often you don’t even realize it’s there. Shame’s primary message goes something like this: You are uniquely defective. Take a look at those words for just a moment. Is there any area...
Weighty, Wonderful Freedom
God put freedom in our DNA. We feel it when we look out over the ocean. Or when we can’t see over the prison wall. But if I’m honest with myself, I’m not always happy with how far God goes with this gift of freedom. Freedom means any number of possible outcomes, and they’re not all good. “God, do you see what’s happening down here? Could you scale back on the freedom just a bit, please?” As a...