The remedy to lust is about eating more.
I enjoy grocery shopping—perusing the aisles, reading ingredients, imagining delicious foods to make and eat and share around the table with those I love. But when I head to the store on an empty stomach, something goes awry. I lose perspective and end up buying too much food and usually more unhealthy food at that.
So I’ve learned to always eat something healthy and substantial before I go shopping.
To deal effectively with lust, you have to do something similar.
The temptation to lust comes because you’re hungry. Whether you’re tempted by pornography, stolen glances at body parts, or romantic storylines, whether heterosexual or homosexual in nature; whatever the temptation, lust promises to fill you up through sexual pleasure. But it doesn’t work.
“Hell and Abaddon are never full, nor are the eyes of sinful man” (Proverbs 27:20).
Lust can’t fill you because it doesn’t understand what you’re really hungry for.
You’re hungry for love.
If you want freedom from lust, you need to receive more love. If you struggle a great deal with lust, you need to receive a great deal of love. This may feel counter-intuitive. Lust makes you feel less worthy of love. Habitual sexual sin leaves you feeling less like anyone who knows this part of your life could really love you substantially. But there is no other way. Lust is only expelled as something greater comes in.
The wealthy don’t search the floor for loose coins. The well-fed don’t dig through trashcans looking for food. And the person who is filled with love doesn’t lust.
If you struggle with lust, ask Jesus to reveal your deeper hungers, and take them to the cross, where true love flows from Him who is Love. Join the communion of saints around the table. Receive His loving invitation to you: Take, eat, and drink.
Only love can fill you substantially to trump the temptation to lust. Love and only love is food enough.
What do you think? Have you ever experienced love in such a way that the temptation to lust diminished? What helps you receive this kind of love? Leave a comment below.
Cutting my shopping time,