Without a sense of how to become free from shame, we’re living in a culture settling for shamelessness instead. It’s a poor substitute. To be shame-free means shame no longer has any hold on you—it doesn’t interfere with how you hear others, doesn’t muddy your relationships, doesn’t challenge the decisions you need to make, doesn’t shape the way you perceive yourself, and doesn’t influence how...
Shhhhhhhame
Shame hurts. And when you’ve done something wrong, that’s a good thing. Like all pain, it’s meant to tell you something’s amiss and needs attention. When a splinter enters a person’s hand, pain sensors alert the person that there’s a problem by making the hand hurt. When the splinter’s removed, the wound is cleaned, and the cells regenerate, the hand no longer hurts. Likewise, when shame is...
Sex Isn’t a Thing
It's so much greater. Changing our thinking about sex could change our world.
Where Are You Misinterpreting Pain?
When it comes to change, pain isn't usually the problem. How we interpret pain is.
Why I Didn’t Want to March, and Why I Did Anyway
Last week, the Supreme Court heard arguments for two monumental cases regarding the future of marriage in our country. The court could rule in several ways, but ultimately, what they decide could clear the way for same-sex marriage to become the law of the land across the U.S. With so much at stake, people from both sides of this debate showed up in D.C. last week. I was invited by two dear...
Want More Pleasure?
We live in a world that pursues pleasure endlessly. But pleasure is elusive. How can you experience more?