Pop quiz: How many times does Scripture use the word “sex”? What do you think? 25? 100? 400? Actually, in the New American Standard or the New King James, the answer is zero. In the New International Version, the translators use the word “sex” twice, and in both instances it’s a negative situation-people demanding sex from others. I used to think the absence of the...
Against or For?
It seems it’s difficult these days to say anything challenging gay marriage without being looked as a bigot, a religious zealot, or a hater. In response, many have gotten quiet. But I can’t. Not so much because I’m opposed to gay marriage (though I am), but because I love homosexual men and women. For the past 15 years, I’ve had the privilege of meeting and walking alongside hundreds of men and...
A Change in Orientation
Everyone’s “sexual orientation” was damaged in the fall. And so, a change in sexual orientation is something everyone needs. In God’s original design, sexuality included things like: nakedness free of shame and fear, honor and dignity given and received, ability to steward sexual desire rather than be ruled by it, unquenchable fidelity between husband and wife, joy and awe in bearing and...
You Can Change (And You’re a Rubik’s Cube)
Is real change possible? This is a question we get a lot in one form or another. Once a sex addict, always a sex addict, right? He cheated on me, will my husband ever really be trustworthy? Can homosexual men and women really change? I’ve wrestled with __________ for so long, is there any hope for me? Another way of asking these same questions is Can people change fundamentally or is the...
When Lust Leaves You Hungry
If you want to overcome unwanted sexual behaviors, learn to eat before you shop. I enjoy grocery shopping—perusing the aisles, reading ingredients, imagining delicious foods to make and eat and share around the table with those I love. But when I head to the store on an empty stomach, something goes awry. I lose perspective and end up buying too much food and usually more unhealthy food at that...
How to Stop Lusting in One Step
Lust has become common place, accepted as the norm. But it's possible to stop. Here's how.