Jesus can change homosexually-attracted men and women. Change is multi-faceted and there’s a lot more to how this happens and what this means than this blog will cover, but we know the reality of change based on the authority of Scripture, the historical teachings of the Church, and the testimonies of those who have experienced changes in their behavior, their sense of identity, and sometimes even in their sexual desires.
But homosexually-attracted men and women are far from the only ones in our culture who need transformation in their sexuality.
Everyone’s “sexual orientation” was damaged in the fall. By way of example, each of the following expresses a disordered sexual desire or behavior in need of the transformative, regenerative work of Jesus:
• Sexual lust or fantasy.
• Pornography use.
• Fantasy and masturbation.
• Feeling sex is inherently dirty or sinful.
• Absence of sexual desire.
• Believing sex is “no big deal.”
• Sex outside of marriage.
• Giving sex to get love.
• Giving love to get sex.
• Avoiding touch out of fear it will “go too far.”
• Looking down on men or women.
• Posting suggestive pictures to get attention.
• Encouraging classmates to send nude pictures of themselves.
• Thinking of your spouse (or future spouse) as an outlet for your sexual desire.
• Justifying fantasy and masturbation because you’re thinking of your spouse.
• Thinking men aren’t responsible for their lust if a woman dresses a certain way.
• Thinking women aren’t responsible for how their dress impacts men.
• Thinking a better body makes for better sex.
• Equating a “better body” with sex appeal.
Each of these comes from distorted, disordered views about sex that are rampant in our world. And each reveals our need for a change in sexual orientation.
If we believe that change is needed only for those with homosexual or bisexual attractions, we are like those in John 8 who insisted they were free, whom Jesus answered, “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is the slave of sin” (John 8:34).
Does Jesus change sexual orientation? He does. He is always willing to help us become the men and women He created us to be. It may take time and many trials and purifications along the way, but if we’ll let Him, He’ll transform our weak and disordered sexuality into alignment with His faithful, life-giving, self-giving love.
Christ died bodily and rose bodily for our bodies and all their urges. His Passion can transform our passions.
As Easter nears, let us again each bring our disordered desires to the One who desires us most of all.
How might the perspective that we all need Christ’s sanctifying work in the area of our “sexual orientation” change our churches? Also, is there anything on the list above that surprised you? Leave a comment below.