Here’s an irony: Sometimes, true and lasting change can be hard to come by when we’re chasing it first and foremost. If change in our lives–whether from an unwanted sexual behavior, a relational struggle, an emotional difficulty, or anything else–is our primary focus, it can end up out of our reach. Choosing to follow Christ first and foremost, on the other hand, is a better way. This...
Podcast: Impact of the Family You Grew up in and Your Present-Day Struggles
Episode 68 – Impact of the Family You Grew up in and Your Present-Day Struggles Join Josh and Kit as they unpack the impact of the families we grew up with and how they can tie into our present-day struggles. Highlights: “The first key childhood driver of unwanted sexual behavior is having a family system that was characterized as rigid and/or disengaged.” I’ve talked to...
Podcast: Sex and Self-Worth
We are wired for intimacy and long to know our true identity because we are wired this way. God created us in His image so there is something innate in us that aches for that intimacy, that connection, that other. Join Josh and Kit as they discuss the entanglement of Sex and Self-Worth. Click for Full Podcast Transcription Josh 0:07So I’m here today with Kit Elmer, and we’re going to...
God on the Floor
Each week I get plenty of “windshield time” as I commute to the Regeneration Ministries office in Baltimore from my home in south-central Pennsylvania. This affords me time to listen to numerous podcasts, and one I heard recently is helping me to pause and prepare during this season of Advent. Adam Young, in his podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves, recently interviewed a young woman, KJ Ramsey...
Following Fantasies
“What are you really looking for?” Chris was in the midst of searching for pornography when he ended up on the phone asking an older Christian brother for help. Chris had struggled with viewing porn for so many years at this point, and he’d tried and tried to break free from his habit. Yet here he was again. He thought what he was looking for was self-evident, so his friend’s question seemed so...
Do You Use the Four Letter ‘F’ Word?
Leaving your unwanted sexual behaviors behind is going to mean suffering of one kind or another. Otherwise, you’re using the “F” word. Not that “F” word. I’m talking about a cursing of a different kind, and all dressed up like a gift. It’s the curse of being Fine. Ten years ago, during my yearly physical with a brand new physician, my doctor made the comment...