I met Andrea at a half-day training with her college Christian ministry. Andrea is a deeply committed Christian student who believes God’s Word is clear that sex is to be reserved for one man and one woman in a lifelong marriage, and this is no small thing for her because, as she told me, she’s bisexual. She also has a huge heart to see her gay and lesbian friends on campus come to know Jesus and...
Podcast: Impact of the Family You Grew up in and Your Present-Day Struggles
Episode 68 – Impact of the Family You Grew up in and Your Present-Day Struggles Join Josh and Kit as they unpack the impact of the families we grew up with and how they can tie into our present-day struggles. Highlights: “The first key childhood driver of unwanted sexual behavior is having a family system that was characterized as rigid and/or disengaged.” I’ve talked to...
Loving Healers
I haven’t yet seen the new movie Boy Erased (starring Nicole Kidman and Russell Crowe), but several people have expressed concerns to me, and it’s caught my attention, too. When I was in the midst of my own struggle with sexual sin, God surprised me repeatedly in ways that moved me toward Him. And so many times, He did this through the good help of people—wounded and loving healers who extended...
When the Promise Hasn’t Come True
At times in the Christian life it seems God doesn’t come through on His promises. We try hard to obey, we try hard to trust Him, but we still end up with losses that feel too heavy to bear. When I was a little girl, I dreamed of having a happy marriage and a wonderful family. I can’t believe my “happily ever after” ended the way it did. We always thought our son would be a great man for God. It’s...
Get Behind Me
As Christians, we are called to relieve suffering. But we’re not called to relieve all suffering. This is most certainly true when it comes to suffering and sanctification, including when it comes to becoming more relationally, emotionally, and sexually whole. We live in an age that says the sign of a good relationship, romance, or sex is the pleasure it brings. If he/she makes you happy, be with...
Resisting A Personal Coup
A friend called me recently very upset. He recounted how he was texting with an old friend in a different state, and she asked him if he had a significant other yet. When he replied no, her next text read, “I know you’re gay. I accept you and just want you to be happy.” He knew she was trying to be affirming, but he didn’t feel affirmed. “Josh,” he said, “I wanted to write her back and say, ‘As...